OLD POEM COLLECTION 1
A Perfect Ending
At the close of our day,
I linger in your eyes,
Lost in the moment,
Cherishing your touch.
Kissing, your tongue with mine,
Teasing me, exciting me, making me ache,
Wanting you to take me right then.
I lay back, pleading without words,
Breathless with anticipation,
As you stand over me, taunting,
Making me wait, admiring what you’ve done.
Anxious, I raise my hips to greet your stare,
Beckoning you to enter me,
As if the lips hidden there
Could speak for me, to some other part of you.
Finally, you grant me relief,
Embedding my being,
My feet upon your chest to brace us both,
As you thrust deep inside, again and again.
You reach places within me,
I thought were untouchable,
The pain hurting so good,
That I can’t help but cry out.
You wonder, if possibly you are hurting me,
Easing momentarily, but then I say, “don’t stop”,
And you know my whimpers are from ecstasy,
As I call you back into our entrancing dance.
My eyes are open to catch you,
As you’re stealing satisfaction with your own,
Taking pride in knowing it is you,
That has caused these looks to come across my face,
Demonstrating to you, your power over me.
And then you say, “Oh Lady”,
As you gaze at me dreamily,
Shaking your head, as in disbelief,
Shyly grinning, revealing to me my own power
To make you feel alive.
I know you are close to leaving me,
Traveling to that place I can not follow,
And I ask you not to go,
Trying with all my might to make you stay,
Requesting, “easy, wait”, as I push you to your back,
Climbing atop you.
Then ever so carefully, I navigate you once again,
To the edge of your own heaven,
As I find that perfect rhythm of my own,
Barely breathing.
And as I start to throb, I become the one
Who can not be stopped from taking flight,
As I ride you wildly, beyond the realms of night,
Into my own promised land.
And returning to earth,
I find to my delight,
You, also coming back to ground,
From a visit to a paradise,
That we both, together, found.
To You…
…Who I considered my ‘first love’, who stayed with me for a year and four months, and made me the kind of person I am right now;
…Who I met and dated years back and made me feel so appreciated and liked;
…Who came back after all these years, making me realize how important I am to you;
…Who showed and taught me how to love again, even for a month;
…Who I thought was just a stranger, and eventually became a good friend;
…Who I never knew will be my mentor, who believed in me and to what I can offer, who inspires me and makes me move forward; as long as I know you’re there to guide me, I know I will never go wrong and that I will achieve whatever it is I dream of;
…Who thought I was just another girl whom you can play with; you made me realize that I can no longer stand the type of person you have become and that I have matured to search for another;
…Who still loves me despite of the circumstances we’ve been through, and made me aware of how you feel;
…Who don’t appreciate a single thing I do; you made me realize that I have so much patience stored in me
…Who I loved all this time, despite of the pain I feel whenever I don’t hear from you; you made me realize that I can just love, even without expecting anything in return
…Who loves me (whoever and wherever you are); you let me stay alive and happy longing for that day I will get to know you and spend the rest of my life with you.
To all the guys I met and been with all these years, and also to everyone of you — before this day and year ends, I just really want to say THANK YOU for coming in my life, for adding colors to my world and for joining me in this God-filled journey.
I know people come and go and leave footprints in our hearts. I’m just hoping that you will never forget, that once in your life, I walked through and touched your heart in the best way I know how.
May this new year give all of you more blessings and much love to give and receive!
Happy New Year everyone! ^_^
My Escape
6PM
Makati
We met again. That guy who always makes my heart skip a beat everytime he shows up. That guy whom I thought was the person I long been waiting for. That guy who let me fall in love again after years of being alone. That guy who brings out the best in me whenever I know he’s there to be proud of what I’ve achieved.
121409
A TEXT MESSAGE
I just received a message from him. He was confined in the hospital for 5 days. I was glad to hear from him that he’s doing fine now and I was glad that he made me aware of his situation – even if its too late.
I wanted to take care of him while he’s recovering from sickness; I wanted to be there and see him get well. I wanted him to realize that despite our contradicting schedules, I can make a way to be there for him — because I want to. But I guess, he doesn’t.
I don’t know if he’s hiding something from me. I don’t even know if he sees or feel me…
Or yeah, maybe most of you already know it. He’s just not into me.
Coz he WAS that guy. That guy…who maybe, never really fell for me…at all.
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SIGNING OFF
This was one of those days where I just go out and check my sites and emails in an internet cafe for about 3 to 5 hours til I feel tired and sleepy. And yeah, part of it was to see if who among my friends are online too and have a simple chat and get connected.
I saw his name pop up (Clark Kent is now online). When I checked his status – Busy. So I just gave him a short message and like asked how he was recovering from his sickness. Knowing that he wont respond right away and thinking he might not respond at all, I closed the message window after a few minutes.
But he did. After about like an hour or two, he said he was okay, though he still coughs and that he’s working while at home. I was delighted when I saw that message window active again. Its been so long that I was able to catch him online. He asked what am I doing, why am I online and if I was off for the day. I said I just waited for him to respond before I logout to know if he’s okay or if he’s already back in the office; and that my shift starts tonight from my Sunday off.
I started asking questions again – thinking it will be a good time to know him more and his plans for Christmas. I asked where will he and his family be on Christmas day. He answered he do not know yet. I asked if his siblings will go home from the states, he said he don’t know. Then he asked why do I want to know.
I learned that if someone asks you “Why do you want to know?” it means that they don’t want to answer your question and you better not insist. So when I saw that, I know I asked a wrong question. Yet I answered back, and the reason was that I just want to know more about him (his life, about his family etc).
Hence, what I thought was a good start, ended up by him – Signing off.
oOo
I felt crushed. Even if this was not the first time he did that, I felt like I was so dumbfounded this time; it was like, that’s his only way to let me know he doesn’t want me to be a part of his life at all. And it was like I was too numb to even realize and feel it through his actions.
I know I might be overanalyzing these things, but I was really hurt. As I said, it was not the first time he signs off whenever we’re in the middle of an online ‘conversation’; and this does not include yet the times that he will just suddenly stop replying after long exchange of text messages.
oOo
But you know what? This could be my first time… to let him go.
Like what Tom’s friend said in the movie 500 Days of Summer, “the only way to let a girl go (in this case, to let a guy go) is to turn him into literature”. Now that I’ve written much about him since last year, I can say that before this year ends, I am ready…
to finally move on and wait for the guy who will be worthy of this attention that I am giving him; and to whom I may finally be worthy of.
This is my escape.
I am still the captain of my ship and I am still the master of my soul.
-The End-
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What I’ve Learned
It’s Thanksgiving day tomorrow. Not much of calls are coming in. I just want to share another nice email forwarded to me in the office 
That you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
I’ve learned
that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.
I’ve learned
that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned
that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life
that counts.
I’ve learned
that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.
I’ve learned
that it’s not what happens to people that’s important. It’s what they do about it.
I’ve learned
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I’ve learned
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I’ve learned
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I’ve learned
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I’ve learned
that learning to forgive takes practice.
I’ve learned
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I’ve learned
that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I’ve learned
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many years you’ve lived.
I’ve learned
that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed you.
I’ve learned
that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I’ve learned
that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned
that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned
that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other and just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned
that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.
I’ve learned
that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I’ve learned
that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
I’ve learned
that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
I’ve learned
that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.
I’ve learned
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I’ve learned
that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.
I’ve learned
I’ve learned
that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
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Scent and Seduction
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/dating-advice/scent-and-seduction
How to ask a guy out
Following my previous post, let’s go ahead and check how Cosmo advised ladies on how to ask a guy out. As for me, yeah, I think I’ve done this at one time or another. And I can say, sometimes, it does pay to be a Cosmochick than be alone, be shy and “wait in vain” for that-gorgeous-guy-you’ve-been-eyeing-for-months-who-will-not-just-make-a-move to come and get you. Ü
HE
He calls me beautiful instead of cute
He likes the simple life I live without complaints
He joined me on my jeepney ride without wishing for the comfort of his car
He walked through the street with little flashflood despite the fact that he hates it
He ate streetfoods with me and relived his “pansit canton” dorm days
He managed to eat with bare hands than in a fine-dining resto
He said i’m not materialistic compared to all the girls he had and met
And that he wish he knew me way back
He likes me for me and everything about me..and never had I met one
He said that I am the one he was waiting for… all his life
I am wishing he stay that way
‘Coz I know deep in my heart that this happens only once..
..The moment you meet the person who accepts and loves you for who you are, despite your past,
Letting that person go is the most stupid thing to do.
~719~
Basta Lovelife. Part 3
Previously, I wrote about a story that I’ve seen over and over again in the lives of women. There’s another tragedy that happens to women. The story goes something like this:
1. Woman and man begin courtship.
2. Woman observes “warning signs” that the man has a major character problem or characteristic which makes them incompatible.
3. Woman decides that she can “fix” his flaw or chooses to ignore it.
4. The man’s character flaw remains, and so does the woman’s illusion.
5. The woman ends up in a miserable relationship; possibly a miserable marriage.
This foolish way of thinking/behaving is summarized in these three words: He Can Change. Women often think they can change men. I’m sure some men are guilty of this too, but it seems that women in particular are vulnerable to his treacherous way of thinking. It may sound something like this:
“He’s unfaithful, but he can change. “
“He has vices/addictions, but he can change.”
“I’m not sure that he’s trustworthy, but he can change.”
“He’s not really passionate about his faith, but he can change.”
“He has a temper problem, but he can change.”
“He doesn’t treat his mother well, but he can change.”
“He doesn’t have any ambition in life, but he can change.”
Do i believe that people can change? Through the transforming power of Christ — yes! Through a dysfunctional relationship — no! Ladies, there is a Savior; there is a life-changer. It is Jesus, not you. Look for a healthy relationship, not a person in need of rescue or major changes.
Bo Sanchez made a tragic observation in How to Find Your One True Love. He noted that some women are more selective about the shoes they buy than they are about the men they get involved with. OK naman kung mapili ka — It’s OK to be choosy! You are a queen — go find yourself a king! Make yourself a list of qualities that your future spouse must have (example: good character, financially stable, etc). Make a list of negative qualities that he must not have (example: vices, unfaithful). Don’t accept suitors who don’t meet these standards! Why waste your time?
The following verse describes those who are not ready to change despite serious character problems. If you are not careful, it will describe your life as well.
so a fool repeats his foolishness.
- Proverbs 26:11-
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Basta Lovelife. Part 2
The story goes something like this:
1. Boy meets girl and begins dating/courtship.
2. boy professes undying love and pressures girl to have sex.
3. Girl gives in to boy’s pressure and has sex with him.
4. Boy loses interest and dumps girl.
5. Girl is left to deal with her broken heart as well as any physical consequences.
There are a few variations to this story. For example, sometimes the girl realizes too late that she was not even the only girlfriend — she was just one of his many “conquests”. Sometimes the couple was together for months (or years) and she thought that they would get married. Regardless, the outcome is usually the same — a young woman with a broken heart.
I meet hundreds of students each year, and I’ve heard this story many times. Please don’t let this happen to you. If you are being pressured to have sex, the relationship is already dead. It is over (tapos na talaga). The only question is the price you will pay before you realize it is over. Take my word on this or you too will pay a high price.
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Basta Lovelife. Part 1
I found this book really helpful though. I hope u guys buy one too and let it guide you through the hoops of the crazy thing called “love”. Read up! ^_^
* Good character comes from making the right choices, not from getting older.
* Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love. ~ Proverbs 5:18-19
* The earlier in life one is exposed to porn, the more harmful the effects tend to be.
* A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. ~ Proverbs 14:1
*Say “no” to Mr. Bolero – End the relationship immediately if you are pressured to have sex. Sexual pressure is inexcusable!
1. I do not respect you enough to wait.
2. I do not care if I ruin your life by getting you pregnant.
3. My physical urges are what are most important to me.
4. You are not worth waiting for.
5. I do not care if I break your heart.
6. Your failure is not important to me.
7. I do not care if you lose your self-respect.
8. I want to brag to my friends about my conquest.
9. I am selfish.
10. I am immature.
11. I am not ready to be a father, but I don’t mind giving you the responsibility of becoming a mother.
12. I am more important than you are.
~ Do any of these lines sound like true love?
You may think I’m exaggerating, but i’m not. I’ve been in the men’s locker room. I know what some teenage boys say wen their girlfriends are away. If a guy starts putting on the pressure, the relationship is pretty much over. He has revealed his true intentions. You are about to get used in the most despicable way. Get rid of him before you have a broken heart. You deserve better!
Kevin Sanders is a missionary and campus minister. He is originally from Alabama (USA), but has lived in Manila since 2002. You can read more of his devotional thoughts and articles by visiting KUYAKEVIN.COM.
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44 ThinGs A GIRL would die for… indeed! [old post]
~45th is my contribution..hehe~
1-touch her waist
2-talk to her
3-share secrets
4-give her your jacket
5-kiss her slowly
are you remembering this?
6-hug her
7-hold her
8-laugh with her
9-invite her somewhere
10-let her be with you when you’re
with your friends
keep reading
11-smile with her
12-take pics with her
13-pull her onto your lap
14-when she says she loves you more,
deny it. fight back
15-when her friends say i love her
more than you, deny it. fight
back and hug her tight so she cant get
to her friends. it makes
her feel loved
Are you thinking about someone?
16-ALWAYS HUG HER AND SAY “I LOVE YOU”
WHEN YOU SEE HER.
17-kiss her unexpectedly
18-HUG HER FROM BEHIND AROUND THE WAIST
19-tell her shes beautiful… not sexy!
20-TELL HER THE WAY YOU FEEL ABOUT HER!
oh, and on that last one… u need to
show her you mean it too
21-kiss her on the lips
22-DONT ask her to buy you stuff. you
buy HER stuff
23-tell her what feels good
24-make her feel loved
25-buy her stuff. small things can
still help
we might deny it but we actually like
and kinda want you to get
us things
26-DONT LIE TO HER
27-DONT CHEAT ON HER
28-take her anywhere she wants
29-txt message or call her in the
morning and tell her have a
good day at school/work, and how much you
miss her
30-be there for her when ever she
needs you, & even when she
doesn’t need you, just be there so
she’ll know that she can
always count on you
are you still reading this? u better
be, its important
31. Hold her close when she’s cold so
she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close
and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will
give her the hint that you
want to kiss them).
34. While in the movie, put your arm
around her and then she
will automatically put her head on
your shoulder, then lean in
and tilt her chin up and kiss her
lightly.
35. Dont ever tell her to leave even
jokingly or act like you’re
mad. If shes upset, comfort her
remember this next time you are with
her
36. When people diss her, stand up for
her.
37. LOOK DEEP INTO HER EYES AND TELL
HER THAT YOU LOVE HER
38. Lay down under the stars and put
her head on your chest so
she can listen to the steady beat of
your heart, Link your
fingers together while you whisper to
her as she rests her eyes
and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other
grab her hand.
40. When you hug her hold her in your
arms as long as possible
MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED
41. Call her at night to wish her
sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and
wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. ALWAYS REMIND HER HOW MUCH YOU
LOVE HER
45. BE CONSISTENT please Ü
Expect The Unexpected
.011909.
How would you feel when a person u barely knew from the past suddenly just popped up and said things which caught u offguard?
I’ve known this guy from like year of 2006. The first time we met was nothing extraordinary. He took me out for lunch in this prominent “eat-all-you-can” resto and ordered the special meal for me. He sat beside me and looked at me like I was the most beautiful girl around that place. Then he suddenly asked me if I have a boyfriend. Being the real single girl at that time, I said none, then he asked me if I can look at him in the eye and say it. I did..much to his surprise and he believed me.
Of all the guys I dated, he was the only one who had the guts to ask me right then and there, and even look me in the eye long enough to search for the truth.
His gentleman acts really knocked me off my feet and his smile melted me. Not until I realized where we’re heading after lunch. He invited me to sleep with him. I was surprised, but one thing lead to another. We started going out for one too many times and do the deed like nothing will keep us apart.
I liked him at that time…but what pisses me off was his arrogance. Granted he is a ‘dating guru’ for this much known online site, i cant imagine how he made me fall for his charm. But his arrogance got on the way when i introduced him to one of my set of friends.
They didn’t like him. They said I wont be happy with him. I agreed. Because by the time I introduced him to my friends, he just kept quiet and had this facial expression that he wanted to leave right away with me. Away from my friend’s house. Since then, I didnt feel he’s serious with me anymore.But still I chose to stay and leave the place with him. We checked-in again to one of this hotels and did it again. I dunno, but it was only then that i realized that I wasn’t pleased with him at all. All he think of was himself and how he will be satisfied.
So i did what i have to do. I took him off my mind…dated other guys, been through with 2 more relationships…days, months and years gone by…then he suddenly sent me a message after 3yrs of no communication.
He said he realized his mistakes. He said he wanted me back. He said he ddnt know why after all these years he chose to keep my number on his phone. He said he wants another chance. He said he wants a relationship. With me.
He said mistakes have been done,and that he felt sorry and guilty for leaving me that way. He felt sorry for what he did to me and for hurting me. Of all the girls he dated, he wanted me.
Why now when I am still coping up with another crazy relationship (if i can consider what I have now a ‘relationship’)? Why now when I am hurting and starting to doubt my self-worth?
I just dont know what to say and if I should believe him now.
He’s the last person I can think of who will do this to me.
He didn’t even cross my mind for a very long time.
And yet here he is…
Saying words i unexpected for him to say…
and here he is…
saying that he’s all charged up now and is more than willing to make ammends to what he did before.
Here he is…telling me that I dont need to fear and doubt because we’re adults now, he learned from his mistakes, and I have his word now as a Man ready to redeem himself for me and be loved by me.
“God, is this you who’s working on him? Should I let him into my life once again? Should I give him another chance for love?”
(,u.u)
When a long distance relationship is not long distance at all…
He’s just a few buildings away from me at work.
Yet he cant find time to see me.
I tried to surprise him on our first monthsary by bringing him a cake and a special gift, but he never showed up because their conference meeting has just started when he arrived. So i ended up going home.
He’s just a few miles away from where i live.
In fact only a few hours drive will get him to me.
He’s not even out of the country to find it hard in visiting me at home when im sick.
But what do i get at the end of the day?
Wishful thinking that he’ll make an effort “personally” to be with me.
All I get is an excuse that he’s “too busy” to spend time with me.
I understand his line of work, and that he’s the boss, and that his developers will have nothing left to do if he wont finish a project assigned to him.
But up to when will I be waiting?
If i’ll be the one to make the first move, i’m afraid he’ll think of me as a demanding or persistent girlfriend. What if he dont want a girl like that? I dont want to lose him just because I made a move to see him.
Besides,i already tried. And everytime i make my move, of setting up a date or meeting with him, i always get rejected with the same excuse. So I decide not to.
Now, help me.
I want to show him that I do understand his lack of time for me for the time being.
But I also want to let him know how difficult it is for me to just wait. Two months of not seeing each other is too much. I cant bear with it.
If only he is living on the other side of the world, i would understand…but he’s not.
If the only communication line we have is just the internet, i would understand…but there’s the telephone – he won’t even give me a call, even at his break time.
I know most of you already knows the answer to my question and would say, “Girl, he’s not just into you”.
But consider this:
there was never a day he failed to say he loves and misses me even if he’s in a middle of a meeting.
Even if he only sends those words on my cellphone, i still appreciate it.
But it takes more than that right?
When my patience is put into test…
yeah…good things come to those who wait…
but when is being patient considered too much?
is it when all you could ever think of is when he/she will realize your existence?
is it when all you wish for is him/her by your side when you’re feeling down?
or when its time to feel that you’re being taken for granted by the one you love?
is there really such thing as waiting so long and being too much patient?
john.1014
My long wait is over
it really feels good to love and be loved in return…
finally, after years of waiting, i felt so loved…
finally, i felt that this is my time to be pampered…
finally, i felt like this is my chance for love
its all about me now…
but of course, its always good to return the favor
and its unlike me to not give him the love he fully deserve.
thats where im good at..hehe (,^u^)
These 3 words…it could change our lives forever
-august 26,2008 yahoo daily forecast-
Love comes to those who wait, but it also could use a jumpstart in the right direction. Today do something proactive to get this party started. There’s no reason to be passive. Use initiative and make the first move!
oOo
guess i just did…
i made the first move to say sorry about the things i said to him for the past days…
guess i just did…
i told him i really missed him so much and i miss those happy times we’ve had
guess i just did…
i asked him if he really do love me,or just like me coz there’s a big difference between those 2words… when all he said that time was the word “mahal”
guess i just did…
after realizing that i dont wna pressure him to say the 3words til he’s ready…
i made the first move to say 
coz that’s what i really feel
if i havent done that…
i wouldn’t see him say…
john.08:26
Dear Lie…
get out of my mouth…get out of my head…get out of my mind…stop puttin’ words in my head…get out of my mouth…your nothing but trouble…get out of my life…get out of me…out of me…out of me lie…
am i just misjudging him? couldn’t help but ask him yesterday if he’s really into me or just out for sexual companionship.
i know i’ve hurt his feelings and ruined his mood…i didn’t mean to…
he of course defended himself and got his point across.i understood.i just don’t know why i keep on letting my mind overthink of what we really have.
as i told him..maybe im just really not the type of girl who’s always up for a “sex talk”. i do have some episodes though where im really in the mood to talk about it. sometimes i can even be so blunt about what i feel at the moment.
but that’s just me…like what i told him, one day i could be so hyped…then the next day, i could be the most “kj” (killjoy) person he’ll ever meet.
oOo
…but nothing can ever hide the fact that im falling for him…maybe i cant just totally give my trust to him as early as now. afraid of feeling used again and taken for granted.
i’ve been into relationships where i almost lose myself and gave them the trust i could offer…and in the end will just be left behind wondering what went wrong. and as soon as i would like to learn from it, here comes another instance when my trusting heart is up for another challenge.
…i just hope my instincts will prove me wrong…that he’s indeed serious as what he says…coz if he’s not, i dunno what im gonna do..will i get back in waiting for years to find the man of my dreams? and will i let my heart suffer again for another shot of getting broken?
john.08:22
He wants to take his time…
gusto ko na siyang ma-meet…
makilala ng personal…
ayoko ng puro online lang..
puro chat…
mas magiging at ease sana ako kung kahit papaano,
di ko man siya makasama palagi,at least we had the chance to meet
and exchange long stories in person.
pag online and chat kasi, konti lang ang napaguusapan…
lagi pa siyang may ginagawa.
ayoko naman lagi siyang naiistorbo sa trabaho dahil sakin
kahit ba sabhin niyang okay lang basta ako,
iba pa rin kung mkpagusap kayo ng mas matagal ng personal
mas magging masaya ako ng ganun…
but as the title says,
he wants to take his time…
he wants for us to get to know each other online first
para daw pag nag-meet kami, wala ng ilangan..
ako din namanim not in a rush
at all
its just that,i really want to know him more
i want to see his actual reactions whenever i crack a joke or something
i want to see how he laugh whenever i give out-of-this-world comments
and i want to see how he is when he’s with me
im not rushing anything…am i?
oh Lord…
give me patience…
i read that my patience will all pay-off
sooner or later than i expected…
just promise me u’l guide me
and if in time i’l be fed up,
just make him stay
i dont wna lose him…
john.8:11
Letting Go
from an office email
by Anna Rachelle Roxas
To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring;
It means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off…
It’s the realization that I can’t control another…
To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try and change or blame another,
I can only change myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.
To let go is not to be protective,
It is to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.
To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more…
dennise.07:06
Are You Moving Way Too Fast In Your Relationship?
Yahoo article 104
By Lisa Angelettie, GirlShrink
When I was 16 years old, I was in deep like with a guy I was dating. He was purely the anti-boyfriend of my parents’ choosing. He drove a black car with a souped up engine. He smoked cigarettes. He had horrible manners. He would beep the horn for me when he came to pick me up. It drove my mother crazy. I mean really looking back – he had no respect.
But that’s not why I’ll remember him. What I’ll remember is that I went to an amusement park one weekend and bought a keychain that had both our names with a heart in between them. I thought it was cute and I thought he’d get a little chuckle out of it. Uh – not! He read me the riot act about how I pressure guys (how he heard about me) and that I was simply too pushy and that he didn’t think this whole thing was going to work out. All this on my front doorstep. Needless to say, I was devastated. I hadn’t known this about myself whether it was his truth or the truth. I carried it with me up until the point I realized that I was in a fully reciprocal relationship (my wedding day!).
What’s the moral of this story? Well, it was kind of pushy for me to buy a keychain with our names when he wasn’t my boyfriend and he didn’t buy it with me or for me. I was forcing the issue. So take this teenage lesson and apply it to your lives now – never force the issue. It only makes you look desperate or clueless.
Tips That You’re Moving Too Fast
1. You call him before you give him a chance to return the FIRST call
2. You are thinking about what your children will look like
3. You are leaving things in his house “by accident” like a toothbrush, underwear, etc.
4. You quiz him about his incoming calls–everyday!
5. You WANT to quiz him about his incoming phone calls
6. You want to meet his mother and ask her stuff about his childhood
7. You aren’t interested in meeting anyone else and have been dating for a month
When He Doesn’t Want To Commit
yahoo article 103
In today’s modern age, men and women are in pursuit of making money more than ever. Adults are taking longer to build satisfying careers, purchase homes, and start families. Putting off long term commitments.
Unfortunately, one thing that has yet to evolve with this new age – is a woman’s biological make-up. Our eggs grow older with each passing year. So do we have a right to be concerned when our boyfriends are not ready to commit to happily ever after?
Although it seems in Hollywood, that getting married is the new “dating”, it’s not that way in the real world. Perhaps it is a matter of economics, or maybe that’s an easy excuse to use when they are just afraid of commitment.
According to one source, “Most men like want to achieve some sort of career success before they commit to marriage. How are you going to take care of a family if you can’t even take care of yourself. Even if the wife works, being able to financially take care of them with or without their income is very important to most men I know.”
He has a point. but what about the women who are ready to jump in the trenches with their men? What about building a life together – struggle and all. Does everyone have to be on rock solid footing before marriage?
Well, it wouldn’t hurt as financial issues are the #1 problem in marriages today.
Things to consider…
How old the two of you are
do you both want the same or similar things out of life
How well do you know each other
Do you both have jobs/careers
Do you have children in or outside of the relationship
Are you happy in the relationship
Things to avoid…
Pressuring someone to commit
Believeing that is your fault if he won’t commit
Obsessing about making a commitment
Waiting too long to make a decision about the relationship
Things To Do…
Ask for what you want
Ask him to be honest about his fears of commitment
Re-evaluate the progress of your relationship periodically
cut your losses if this hill seems to insurmountable to climb
He’s Just Not That Into You…Really!
yahoo article 102
There was a publishing phenomenon that occurred when authors Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo wrote the relationship/dating book – He’s Just Not That Into You. Women were reading it like they had no idea. No clue.
[i still find it hard to get this into my line of thinking...tsk3x...haha]
Hey, I skimmed it in between feeding the kids and an episode of Desperate Housewives – but it all sounds like stuff we’ve heard before. I mean– really. Isn’t it all common sense?
Do we as women not really know when a man doesn’t call us after a date that the guy just wasn’t that interested. I think we do. It seems as if we really want to know why? Why isn’t he interested. Was it something I said or did? Was it something I was wearing? Is it what I do for a living? Is it because I slept with him too fast or not at all? What is it! We just want to know. If not to fix it with you, then to be prepared for the next man.
If we all weren’t so insecure about who we are and the position we play in this world – we wouldn’t second guess every move we make. I mean I’m all about trying to improve oneself. Recognizing mistakes. Correcting them. But basically, you are who you are. If the man you just had dinner with wasn’t interested enough to come back for more — then GirlShrink says (respectfully:) PEACE!
Sometimes I think that our parents may have overdid things. They were so focused on boosting our self confidence and self-esteem that we believe that there must be a complicated explanation as to why someone wouldn’t be interested in us. I mean you – not interested in me? Huh?
And then of course as I mentioned earlier there are those of us that swear that there are a million things wrong with us and we just want to know which one turned off this man that we were really interested in. We want to know what’s wrong with us.
But really…no matter what our background or baggage we bring to the table – it’s a concept that we probably need to start teaching our children. Everyone is not going to love you. Everyone is not going to like you. And that’s okay.
Do you hear me ladies? That is okay. 5 things to remember…
1. Don’t change a thing. You know that you are just fine the way you are.
2. Go out tonight. Get right back on that horse again and be open to meeting more men.
3. Don’t hide in the land of DENIAL. Be honest with yourself and move on.
4. Ask for what your worth. Don’t settle for someone clearly sending you signals of indifference.
5. Use your common sense. You don’t need a book to tell you what your instincts already have!
oOo
i’m learning, i’m learning, i’m learning! Ü
john.08:23
Kissing Tips – Make a Kiss More Passionate.
yahoo article 101
By Todd Peterson
Kissing is something that most couples do. Kissing well and with passion, however, is far less common. All too often, people fall into boring ruts and monotonous techniques that make kissing an undesirable prelude of more exciting activities to come. This is especially true for couples who have been together for awhile. To keep kissing fun or to rekindle the flame that was once there, observe the guidelines below.
1) What you do right before a kiss will set the mood. Gaze into their eyes and pay your sweetie a romantic compliment.
2) Hold your partner firmly, but gently in your arms. Put one arm around their back and put the other around the base of their head.
3) Occasionally, put both of your hands on your partner’s cheeks to intensify the moment.
4) Kiss other places than the mouth. Add variety and intimacy by breaking away to kiss the cheek, forehead, neck, or anywhere else you feel is appropriate.
5) While maintaining a slow rhythm is essential to establishing intimacy, occasional bursts of intensified and quick movements (with tongue and hands) lasting several seconds will increase the passion.
6) Break the lip lock every few minutes to make a compliment about your partner’s kissing ability, passion, or how sexy they are.
7) Location will determine the intimacy of the moment. Don Juan, himself, would have trouble creating a sensual moment in a busy school hallway with people walking by. Isolated areas are the best place to unleash your passion.
8) Use your hands to freely caress your partner’s body. You can caress the hair, stroke their back, etc.
Why…im not…how…maybe
just why in the world can’t i say what i wanted to say when ur in front of me?
why cant i tell you that im not used to be treated like you do?
why cant i tell you that i feel unloved whenever im not hearing from you?
why cant i tell you that i need to feel your presence even once a day?
why cant i tell you that im not requesting for you to report to me every hour/every minute of your whereabouts…just a simple “hi” will do.. at least i know i crossed your mind for the day…
im not asking you to give all your time for me coz i wont do the same
im not asking you to choose me above your family coz of course i wont do the same
but at least let them know im your girl…
im not asking anything more than your consistency
how you made your way to win me back
how you did everything to give the relationship another chance
how you made me believe that we’ll have a brand new start
and how you made me believe that i can still give u a slot in my heart
maybe im trying to still give you a chance
maybe im trying to blind my eyes of the reality that things can still change
maybe im trying to hide the mask of disappointment
or maybe you’re just too busy to see my point.
tell me, is this real love then?
dennise.06:12
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