To You…
…Who I considered my ‘first love’, who stayed with me for a year and four months, and made me the kind of person I am right now;
…Who I met and dated years back and made me feel so appreciated and liked;
…Who came back after all these years, making me realize how important I am to you;
…Who showed and taught me how to love again, even for a month;
…Who I thought was just a stranger, and eventually became a good friend;
…Who I never knew will be my mentor, who believed in me and to what I can offer, who inspires me and makes me move forward; as long as I know you’re there to guide me, I know I will never go wrong and that I will achieve whatever it is I dream of;
…Who thought I was just another girl whom you can play with; you made me realize that I can no longer stand the type of person you have become and that I have matured to search for another;
…Who still loves me despite of the circumstances we’ve been through, and made me aware of how you feel;
…Who don’t appreciate a single thing I do; you made me realize that I have so much patience stored in me
…Who I loved all this time, despite of the pain I feel whenever I don’t hear from you; you made me realize that I can just love, even without expecting anything in return
…Who loves me (whoever and wherever you are); you let me stay alive and happy longing for that day I will get to know you and spend the rest of my life with you.
To all the guys I met and been with all these years, and also to everyone of you — before this day and year ends, I just really want to say THANK YOU for coming in my life, for adding colors to my world and for joining me in this God-filled journey.
I know people come and go and leave footprints in our hearts. I’m just hoping that you will never forget, that once in your life, I walked through and touched your heart in the best way I know how.
May this new year give all of you more blessings and much love to give and receive!
Happy New Year everyone! ^_^
Of Salons,Scandals and Gossips
Doing my usual routine after payday (pampering myself in my favorite salon), I was surprised to see and hear their staff and some customers google upon the Hayden Kho / Katrina Halili scandal on a cellphone. I forgot that gossips (in that case-scandals) like that are rampant in this type of place. I forgot that sometimes, if not most of the time, here is where you can get the latest scoop in town.
Maybe it just did not cross my mind that that issue almost shook the hell out of ANY, in fact EVERY one. That even a highschool student would be intrigued of what that video has to offer to appease their innocence of the matter. That even politicians would suddenly bring up their own ‘say’ about the issue, rather than focus on other MORE important topics which will make our country a better place to live in. That even a normal kid can now say and relate to jokes with these persons’ name attached to it. And that even a side vendor is more than willing to voice out his opinion—only because they all had watched the video.
Surprisingly indeed, this scandal became a box-office hit.
How long do you think this will last? You have any idea why people even bothered to take at least an hour or so (if you combine all minutes each video had), just to skip what they’re doing and take a look of what it’s all about? Does it really pay to go all naked and all the way just to get this popular? Come on, feed my curiousity. Haha. Ü
Oh, one more thing…I would like to share with you another article I like from Kuya Kevin’s website which also relates to this post I made. He really is very good in delivering his message. Read up! Ü
11 Ingredients to Cook Up Good Sex
Marie Claire article 106
February 27, 2009 3:09 PM by Rich Santos
Sometimes good sex feels like a really tough recipe to me. Now, I love cooking; any good cook knows he/she is only as good as the ingredients they use. This is why I love the process of buying vegetables and other ingredients. I even love peeling and cutting. It’s all part of the process to make a great dish.
And, like a recipe, I think sex is only as good as its ingredients: the people involved, and then the deeper ingredients like connection and chemistry. Here are some ingredients that can help make great sex:
Safe, but threatening
Couples need to feel safe around each other, but sex is fun when it has a bad edge to it. If you can make one another feel “comfortably threatened” it can lead to a steamy experience.
Spontaneity
Spontaneity is a common thread for success in all areas of romance, and sex is no different. Sex, just like anything else, can become routine and mundane. How often do we just grab each other and go at it?
Attraction
I’m not one of those lucky guys that has sex with girls who aren’t attracted to me. Some of my friends admit that they’ve had sex with people they were not attracted to. How do these guys pull this off? I need to learn this secret. Nevertheless, none of my friends are ever thrilled about it, so the sex wasn’t that great.
The Intangible Spark
What is it about that certain someone that gets our blood rushing, and makes us hot? Life would be boring if we could answer this question.
Emotional Connection
People can enjoy sex with a limited emotional connection, but most of us need to have a deep emotional connection to have good sex. For me, unless I am really into a girl, sex is kind of ho-hum, and I’m left wondering why I even did it. Good sex is more than just orgasms and touching-it needs to stimulate the mind and spirit.
Personal Mood
When I’m in my sports, Wikipedia, music mood, I’m not really in the state of mind for sex. If I’m stressed or depressed, I may not be able to get in the mood. And, I’m never sure when a girl is in the mood. Even if she’s in my bed, I still wonder if she just wants to talk.
Mutual Selflessness
I madeout with a girl once and her friend later approached me, telling me that her friend really enjoyed it. Her friend asked me what I did, and I said: “I don’t know, I just was very concerned with making sure she enjoyed it.” If two people concentrate on making the other person feel amazing, then they both benefit and the sex could be great.
Confidence (even if you have to fake it)
I know if a girl seems unsure of herself in bed, it gets distracting and starts to feel awkward. I’m sure women feel the same way if us guys act unconfident. The best thing to do is to act like you have some experience, not questioning anything (despite this I’m always questioning: “what did that noise mean,” “did I do something wrong,” “does she think I’m fat?”) I think back to the advice my dad once gave my sisters and I when he snuck us onto the “premium members only” tennis courts at this fancy resort at the beach. While we played, security goons watched closely and my dad could tell that we were nervous:
“Just act like you are supposed to be here and they won’t ask any questions.”
Sure enough, it worked. I’ll try to apply this advice without thinking of security goons or tennis courts.
Common Interests
You both should be equally willing to try things. How awkward is it if someone busts out the chocolate syrup and gimp ball/mask if one of you is not into it? On the other hand, an adventurous partner can show a “shyer” partner some new things. You both just have to have that willingness to be open minded.
Sense of Humor
Sometimes when I’m making out with a girl and she makes a weird sound, or if we make a clumsy move together, it sticks in my mind and I want to laugh so bad. But often, I’m so worried about looking stupid, I just hold in my laughter even though I’m dying to crack up. If you can laugh together, make fun of your mistakes, it will take the pressure off and it will become more enjoyable.
Love
We all know it’s better when we’re in love.
Aside from love, what do you think the most important ingredients are? What would you add to this list? Do you disagree with any of the ingredients?
How You Can Seduce Anyone
Marie Claire article 103
By Bai Ling
How do you get a guy to fall in love (or into bed) with you?
Chinese-born actor Bai Ling, who most recently sexed up the small screen on Entourage, shares her best come-hither secrets – no booty shaking required.
1. DO THE SLOW REVEAL.
Seduction is an art. American men will ask you right away: “What do you do for a living? Are you married? Do you have a boyfriend?” They’re very blunt. That’s too easy. That’s boring. They should take the time to see who you are. And you should slowly reveal who you really are.
2. FLAUNT YOUR ASSETS.
If you love a part of your body, show it off. I like to wear short skirts, and I like to show my stomach–that works for me. Wear a favorite color. Wear a perfume that heightens your sexual senses. And don’t wear too much jewelry; it’s distracting. Most important, don’t get caught up wondering, Oh, will he like this on me? He’s not the driver, you are! If you’re confident, he’ll feel it.
3. DON’T HIDE YOUR APPREHENSION.
Having anxiety during a date isn’t a bad thing. It shows your vulnerability. Intelligent guys like that. If you’re nervous, there’s a vibe there that can be kind of lovely, so don’t try to cover it up. Don’t think so much. That’s when you start to get lost.
4. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR UPPER BODY.
On most dates, you’re sitting down with a man, so seduce him with your upper body, your breasts, your shoulders. Also, smile! When you smile naturally, it makes you more attractive to others.
5. AVOID PLAYING GAMES.
Playing hard-to-get is not being your self. It’s always best to be honest and show your heart. A lot of people play games, like when they say, “Oh, I’m going to be late. I’ve got another date” [to make you jealous]. That just doesn’t work.
6. BE GENEROUS WITH THE COMPLIMENTS.
I think it’s good to compliment a guy on anything you feel is really outstanding, because compliments generate a very positive environment. Besides, being appreciative is a very attractive trait in a person.
7. REPEAT AFTER ME: “I AM BEAUTIFUL.”
We are all, in our own ways, truly beautiful. If you love, respect, and accept your true self, your soul mate will find you. It’s not about trying to look more beautiful. If you’re trying too hard and feeling insecure, you’ll lose yourself and your soul mate.
As told to Adena Halpern
237 reasons to have SEX
Yahoo article 106
by djerome1940, on Sat Aug 9, 2008 8:08am PDT
by John M. Grohol, Psy.D
I’m not sure who asked the question to begin with (as though you needed a reason!), but here is the full list of 237 reasons that people said why they have sex:
1. I was ”in the heat of the moment.”
2. It just happened.
3. I was bored.
4. It just seemed like ”the thing to do.”
5. Someone dared me.
6. I desired emotional closeness “(i.e.,” intimacy).
7. I wanted to feel closer to God. (huh?! how?!)
8. I wanted to gain acceptance from my friends.
9. It’s “exciting,” adventurous.
10. I wanted to make up after a fight.
11. I wanted to get rid of aggression.
12. I was under the influence of drugs.
13. I wanted to have something to tell my friends.
14. I wanted to express my love for the person.
15. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
16. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
17. I felt like I owed it to the person.
18. I was attracted to the person.
19. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
20. My friends were having sex and I wanted to fit in.
21. It feels good.
22. My partner kept insisting.
23. The person was famous and I wanted to be able to say I had sex with him/her.
24. I was physically forced to.
25. I was verbally coerced into it.
26. I wanted the person to love me.
27. I wanted to have a child.
28. I wanted to make someone else jealous.
29. I wanted to have more sex than my friends.
30. I was married and you’re supposed to.
31. I was tired of being a virgin (wow, someone’s getting tired of being like this pala).
32. I was ”horny.”
33. I wanted to feel loved.
34. I was feeling lonely.
35. Everyone else was having sex.
36. I wanted the attention.
37. It was easier to ”go all the way” than to stop.
38. I wanted to ensure the relationship was ”committed.”
39. I was competing with someone else to ”get the person.”
40. I wanted to ”gain control” of the person.
41. I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
42. I was curious about sex.
43. I wanted to feel attractive.
44. I wanted to please my partner.
45. I wanted to display submission.
46. I wanted to release anxiety/stress.
47. I didn’t know how to say ”no.”
48. I felt like it was my duty.
49. I wanted to end the relationship.
50 My friends pressured me into it.
51. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
52. I wanted the experience.
53. I felt obligated to.
54. It’s fun.
55. I wanted to get even with someone “(i.e.,” get revenge).
56. I wanted to be popular.
57. It would get me gifts.
58. I wanted to act out a fantasy.
59. I hadn’t had sex for a while.
60. The person was ”available.”
61. I didn’t want to ”lose” the person.
62. I thought it would help ”trap” a new partner.
63. I wanted to make someone else jealous.
64. I felt sorry for the person.
65. I wanted to feel powerful.
66. I wanted to ”possess” the person.
67. I wanted to release tension.
68. I wanted to feel good about myself.
69. I was slumming.
70. I felt rebellious.
71. I wanted to intensify my relationship.
72. It seemed like the natural next step.
73. I wanted to be nice.
74. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
75. I wanted to feel young.
76. I wanted to manipulate him/her into doing something for me.
77. I wanted him/her to stop bugging me about sex.
78. I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person.
79. I wanted the person to feel good about themselves.
80. I didn’t want to disappoint the person.
81. I was trying to ”get over” an earlier person/relationship.
82. I wanted to reaffirm my sexual orientation.
83. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
84. I felt guilty.
85. My hormones were out of control.
86. It was the only way my partner would spend time with me.
87. It became a habit.
88. I wanted to keep my partner happy.
89. I had no self-control.
90. I wanted to communicate at a deeper level.
91. I was afraid my partner would have an affair if I didn’t have sex with him/her.
92. I was curious about my sexual abilities.
93. I wanted a ”spiritual” experience.
94. It was just part of the relationship ”routine”.
95. I wanted to lose my inhibitions.
96. I got ”carried away.”
97. I needed another ”notch on my belt.”
98. The person demanded that I have sex with him/her.
99. The opportunity presented itself.
100. I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex while stoned “(e.g.,” on marijuana or some other drug).
101. It’s considered ”taboo” by society.
102. I wanted to increase the number of sex partners I had experienced.
103. The person was too ”hot” (sexy) to resist.
104. I thought it would relax me.
105. I thought it would make me feel healthy.
106. I wanted to experiment with new experiences.
107. I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex with another person.
108. I thought it would help me to fall asleep.
109. I could brag to other people about my sexual experience.
110. It would allow me to ”get sex out of my system” so that I could focus on other things.
111. I wanted to decrease my partner’s desire to have sex with someone else.
112. It would damage my reputation if I said ”no.”
113. The person was too physically attractive to resist.
114. I wanted to celebrate something.
115. I was seduced.
116. I wanted to make the person feel better about themselves.
117. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex.
118. I wanted to see whether sex with a different partner would feel different or better.
119. I was mad at my “partner,” so I had sex with someone else.
120. I wanted to fulfill a previous promise to my partner.
121. It was expected of me.
122. I wanted to keep my partner from straying.
123. I wanted the pure pleasure.
124. I wanted to dominate the other person.
125. I wanted to make a conquest.
126. I’m addicted to sex.
127. It was a favor to someone.
128. I wanted to be used or degraded.
129. Someone offered me money to do it.
130. I was drunk.
131. It seemed like good exercise.
132. I was pressured into doing it.
133. The person offered to give me drugs for doing it.
134. I was frustrated and needed relief.
135. It was a romantic setting.
136. I felt insecure.
137. My regular partner is “boring,” so I had sex with someone else.
138. I was on the ”rebound” from another relationship.
139. I wanted to boost my self-esteem.
140. I wanted to get my partner to stay with me.
141. Because of a bet.
142. It was a special occasion.
143. I wanted to get a special favor from someone.
144. I wanted to get back at my partner for having cheated on me.
145. I wanted to enhance my reputation.
146. I wanted to keep warm.
147. I wanted to punish myself.
148. I wanted to break up a rival’s relationship by having sex with his/her partner.
149. I wanted to stop my partners’ nagging.
150. I wanted to impress friends.
151. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
152. I wanted to brag to my friends about my conquests.
153. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
154. I wanted to get a job.
155. I wanted to get a raise.
156. I wanted to get a promotion.
157. I wanted to satisfy a compulsion.
158. I wanted to make money.
159. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.
160. I wanted to change the topic of conversation.
161. I wanted to get out of doing something.
162. I wanted to test my compatibility with a new partner.
163. I wanted to get a partner to express love.
164. I wanted to put the passion back into my relationship.
165. I wanted to prevent a breakup.
166. I wanted to become one with another person.
167. I wanted to get a favor from someone.
168. I wanted to breakup my relationship.
169. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease “(e.g.,” “herpes,” AIDS).
170. I wanted to breakup another’s relationship.
171. I wanted to avoid hurting someone’s feelings.
172. I wanted to make myself feel better about myself.
173. I wanted to get rid of a headache.
174. I was afraid to say ”no” due to the possibility of physical harm.
175. I wanted to keep my partner from straying.
176. I wanted to burn calories.
177. I wanted to even the score with a cheating partner.
178. I wanted to hurt an enemy.
179. I wanted to feel older.
180. I wanted to raise my self-esteem.
181. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
182. I wanted to become more focused on work – sexual thoughts are distracting.
183. I wanted to say ”I’ve missed you.”
184. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
185. I wanted to say ”I’m sorry.”
186. I wanted to return a favor.
187. I wanted to say ”Thank you.”
188. I wanted to welcome someone home.
189. I wanted to say ”goodbye.”
190. I wanted to defy my parents.
191. I wanted to relieve menstrual cramps.
192. I wanted to relieve ”blue balls.”
193. I wanted to get the most out of life.
194. I wanted to feel feminine.
195. I wanted to feel masculine.
196. I am a sex addict.
197. I wanted to see what all the fuss is about.
198. I thought it would boost my social status.
199. The person had a lot of money.
200. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
201. The person was a good dancer.
202. Someone had told me that this person was good in bed.
203. The person had beautiful eyes.
204. The person made me feel sexy.
205. An erotic movie had turned me on.
206. The person had taken me out for an expensive dinner.
207. The person was a good kisser.
208. The person had bought me jewelry.
209. The person had a great sense of humor.
210. The person seemed self-confident.
211. The person really desired me.
212. The person was really desired by others.
213. I wanted to gain access to that person’s friend.
214. I felt jealous.
215. The person flattered me.
216. I wanted to see if I could get the other person into bed.
217. The person had a desirable body.
218. I had not had sex in a long time.
219. The person smelled nice.
220. The person had an attractive face.
221. I saw the person naked and could not resist.
222. I was turned on by the sexual conversation.
223. The person was intelligent.
224. The person caressed me.
225. The person wore revealing clothes.
226. The person had too much to drink and I was able to take advantage of them.
227. I knew the person was usually ”out of my league.”
228. The person was mysterious.
229. I realized I was in love.
230. I wanted to forget about my problems.
231. I wanted to reproduce.
232. I wanted to feel loved.
233. I wanted my partner to notice me.
234. I wanted to help my partner forget about their problems.
235. I wanted to lift my partner’s spirits.
236. I wanted to submit to my partner.
237. I wanted to make my partner feel powerful.
This list comes from a University of Texas study published August 2007 issue of the Archives of Sexual Behavior (Study PDF). It asked 400 students and volunteers why they had sex. Keep in mind, most of the subjects were college-age students (which may certainly influence the top 20 reasons, below).
Last Updated: August 2007
Funny how most statements were repeated and was just stated on a different way. Nevertheless, most if not all, once ran into our minds and slipped out of our tongue in one way or another. Isn’t it? I myself was guilty to most of the reasons on this list *wink* Ü
Drugs don’t go along with sex! AT ALL
This is a follow up of my blog entitled: When a Rocker meets a Thespian
I guess the title says it all. Of course who wont agree that sex or having sex in that matter should always feel good? That’s not until you’ll find out that the person you’re doing the deed with uses drugs to get him going. Bullshit diba?
You start with a very good conversation, try to appease each other’s minds and make bola to each other’s egos, just to get the move going. When the moment you start thinking everything will be alright, you’ll realize there really is something wrong.
Rockers (those who do really hard rock – i hope not all) would tend to be engaged with this habit of taking drugs just to keep their adrenaline high and make their confidence on stage so high that they could win their audience applause. But i didn’t realize that I was already on a situation wherein drugs will be a means to having great pleasure in bed, until my own adrenaline rush pushed me to make him stop and let him go. If not for that, I could already be either raped or killed by this person whom I thought is different out of the tons of guys I met.
Guys, its simple. We will love and accept you for who you are, no matter how crazy or crappy your past life was. Believe me. Just DON’T EVER THINK we are going to deal with you if you engage with drugs.
Either accept that truth, or just go ahead and move on searching for a good-girl-that-might-go-bad-and-be-high with you until you die. Enough said.
Kissing Tips – Make a Kiss More Passionate.
yahoo article 101
By Todd Peterson
Kissing is something that most couples do. Kissing well and with passion, however, is far less common. All too often, people fall into boring ruts and monotonous techniques that make kissing an undesirable prelude of more exciting activities to come. This is especially true for couples who have been together for awhile. To keep kissing fun or to rekindle the flame that was once there, observe the guidelines below.
1) What you do right before a kiss will set the mood. Gaze into their eyes and pay your sweetie a romantic compliment.
2) Hold your partner firmly, but gently in your arms. Put one arm around their back and put the other around the base of their head.
3) Occasionally, put both of your hands on your partner’s cheeks to intensify the moment.
4) Kiss other places than the mouth. Add variety and intimacy by breaking away to kiss the cheek, forehead, neck, or anywhere else you feel is appropriate.
5) While maintaining a slow rhythm is essential to establishing intimacy, occasional bursts of intensified and quick movements (with tongue and hands) lasting several seconds will increase the passion.
6) Break the lip lock every few minutes to make a compliment about your partner’s kissing ability, passion, or how sexy they are.
7) Location will determine the intimacy of the moment. Don Juan, himself, would have trouble creating a sensual moment in a busy school hallway with people walking by. Isolated areas are the best place to unleash your passion.
8) Use your hands to freely caress your partner’s body. You can caress the hair, stroke their back, etc.
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